It sounds like you had a good and loving relationship with your dad before he started having health problems. I'm finding this is all 1000 times harder because I started with a lousy relationship with my mother. She has always been a difficult, secretive, and often mean person. I really struggle to approach her care in an open, patient, and nonjudgmental way, and then I feel like a terrible person when I fail at it. This is so hard.
It is so hard to watch your parent who used to be a "get up and go" person sit down and stay. You want to argue with it because it doesn't make any sense. They're supposed to be superheroes forever.
It sounds like you had a good and loving relationship with your dad before he started having health problems. I'm finding this is all 1000 times harder because I started with a lousy relationship with my mother. She has always been a difficult, secretive, and often mean person. I really struggle to approach her care in an open, patient, and nonjudgmental way, and then I feel like a terrible person when I fail at it. This is so hard.
It really is so hard! So much of caregiving is about drawing boundaries and taking care of yourself.
It is so hard to watch your parent who used to be a "get up and go" person sit down and stay. You want to argue with it because it doesn't make any sense. They're supposed to be superheroes forever.